Create urgency, priorities and start your legacy; follow Craig Thompson’s lead

When I was searching for a lawyer with an interesting second or side job to interview, I heard about Craig A. Thompson. Thompson’s doing so much – and so much good – that I was certain he could teach me and my readers some lessons in time management or managing multiple priorities.

Turns out he’s learned some powerful lessons himself, from his mentors and others, and he shares them in talks and speeches that inspire and encourage us to excel and give.

Thompson has developed three distinct careers: He’s a lawyer and litigator with the law firm Venable in D.C. and Baltimore; he’s an author and a motivational speaker and he’s a preacher at a large church in Columbia Md. I profiled him recently in the Washington Post Capital Business.

“Everything he does is with passion. It’s with tremendous energy and the highest standards for excellence. He does it with a smile ….People want to be like Craig,”Brian Schwalb, vice chairman of Venable, told me. Thompson’s outside work and philanthropy, including board seats for SEED School of Maryland and others, actually help his law practice, Schwalb said.

So how does he manage so much? In my Post piece, his insights could be summarized as a deep sense of mission, of service, and of living up to his God-given talents – even if it means working 80 hours a week. He really does make time count.

So here are three lessons on managing your priorities and your time, courtesy of Craig Thompson:

  1.  ”If it’s not fun, don’t do it.” This is the best advice he ever received, and he thinks it’s increasingly important as he hits his 40s. When we find joy in our work, it is easy to see it spill over to Saturdays. He likes all his jobs, and that makes squeezing them in easier.
  2. Define your priorities and areas of impact. Ask yourself: ” What type of impact do you really want to have in the world?” He picked up that from a mentor, Freeman Hrabowski, president of the University of Maryland, Baltimore, who appeared in one of Thompson’s monthly columns. He’s committed to service and his communities, including his church.  Concentrate your charity or other contributions. “You don’t have to save the whole world to be relevant,” Thompson said. “Focus on doing good in a few areas.”
  3.  Develop a sense of urgency, and an ability to say no. Thompson’s need to  make every minute count comes through loud and clear. “Don’t let things linger,” he said. His ability to say no has evolved, and having three children helped that. So does a clear focus. He’s gotten comfortable turning down invitations to events and even some speeches, which are a mix of pro bono and paid gigs. He  does not hang out or play golf, and he stopped hosting a radio show.
Thompson has already collected awards and accolades, yet, I suspect he’s just about to hit his highest gears, with the next book and his spiritual strength and his clarity, talents and vision. To sample his motivational and story-telling powers, take 23 minutes to watch to his 2010 commencement speech to the University of Maryland  Or draw inspiration from Thompson, and start developing your priorities for making a difference and building a legacy.
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Earth Day advice for a green office – add plants and PDFs

Cheryl Luptowski grew up in a rural area of Michigan, thinking she was going into business after college. That career path changed when she landed a job at a water treatment plant in Bay City, Mich.

That triggered her passion for clean water and living in an earth-friendly way. “I fell in love with the whole idea of living in the Great Lakes region, doing my part to provide clean water,” she told me.  ”I’ve been environmentally-conscious most of my adult life….We’ve always hung our clothes outside to dry.”

Fast forward about 20 years and Luptowski works answering consumer questions about water quality and other topics for NSF International. (Ann Arbor-based NSF develop standards for public health and certifies and tests products for businesses. Interestingly, its sustainability team currently testing the first residential products to recycle gray water from clothes washer or dishwasher for use on such things as gardens or toilet flushing.)

She and NSF’s sustainability staff came up with close to 30 tips, in honor of Earth Day, to make your office more green. They narrowed them down to 12 tips, and I’m presenting five of  Luptowski’s and my favorites. Be kind to Mother Earth at work with these NSF suggestions:

  1. Green your air. Plants do more than pretty up your work space. They also absorb indoor air pollution and increase the flow of oxygen. They may even help prevent “sick building syndrome,” where off-gassing office decor, carpeting and furniture can cause illnesses and allergies.
  2.  Reduce over reuse. Office paper is recyclable, but a lot gets wasted. Waste reduction is usually more cost-effective than recycling because it minimizes the material that needs to be collected, transported and processed. 
  3. Drink smart. The Natural Resource Defense Council suggests coffee is less sustainable than the coffee pot. Choose coffee that is organic, shade grown and fair traded. Use stainless steel filters rather than paper filters, and bring in mugs and glasses. (I say drink water, and preferably tap water from a reusable bottle or glass.)
  4. Don’t be a paper pusher.  The average U.S. office worker goes through 10,000 sheets of copy paper a year, according to Sierra Club estimates. So go for PDFs or park documents on a shared drive and then pull them up for everyone to view collectively in a meeting. (My tip: If you have a home office, put your printer in another room, or the basement, so it’s not so easy to access.) 
  5. Skip the screen saver. Removing your screen saver is a simple way to be sustainable. Screen savers use excess energy when you are away from your desk or daydreaming. Change your screen settings to “hibernate” or “sleep” when you’re away for more than 10 minutes.
I also like the NSF tips on bringing your lunch and Luptowski’s suggestion to use the back of printed paper to jot notes and details. Some require a mindset change, she said, such as avoiding the printer as much as possible. Yet some are easy – and impactful. “If people incorporate one or two into their work day, just imagine what we can do.”

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Taste the sweetness, even when you’re super rushed, overbooked

Sweet strawberry shortcake (Photo courtesy of Bigfoto.com)

Sometimes life gets so busy, so full, so demanding that it feels like everything we do is based on speed and hurrying ahead. Send that Tweet, answer that email now and don’t neglect the three projects that need your attention before noon.

Those are the days we most need to  taste the sweetness of life.

That deliciousness could come from a 20-minute walk with your dog or a salad with dried Michigan cherries – or a strawberry shortcake!  It could come from reading a chapter in that novel you devour at night or going to a Zumba class or taking a half hour to meditate, despite pressing deadlines. I find it also in a call to my sister, or another good friend, works wonders. Others may taste the sweetness in some time in their garden or a stop between appointments to pick up a bottle of Merlot or some flowers for their sweetie or themselves.

I know there’s research that shows we are more productive, more engaged, after we take these short breaks to refresh and re-focus ourselves. (Honestly we don’t need scientific data to show this, just a few experiences with it gives it standing and sweetness in our lives.) Self-care is always important, but especially when you are pushing yourself hard.

So take time to smell the roses; pick up a quart of strawberries and savor life and work today, and see for yourself how life’s sweetness can help with professional smartness and productivity.

 I’d love it if you would share how you taste the sweetness and how it helps your work and life.

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Volunteer work may get you hired, new LinkedIn survey shows

People who volunteer find it brings them a real payoff in all kinds of ways. Now new research from LinkedIn shows it could pay off in a job offer too.
One in five hiring managers surveyed by LinkedIn say they’ve chosen someone based on the candidate’s volunteer experiences, and 41 percent say they consider volunteer work equally valuable as paid experience.
“In this hyper-competitive world of work, where we all need to differentiate ourselves, volunteering not only provides you the opportunity to showcase your talents and experiences, but it also allows you to demonstrate compassion and commitment,” LinkedIn’s connections director Nicole Williams writes in a blog post announcing a new field for volunteer activities on individuals’ profiles.

I’m a big believer in the value of volunteering – to build your self-confidence, your connections, skills and to improve your world.  Here’s three tips for making the most of volunteering:

  • Play to your passions.  Volunteer work can bring back a spark. It can give you a sense of adventure, engagement, meaning. And yes, it can give you a place for your passions and your causes to run free, which can keep your creativity flowing, especially if your day job seems rather drab or mundane.
  • Identify the right opportunities. Especially when you’re filling in gaps in your resume or trying to develop a new path, choose your volunteer work with care.  Depending on your goals and career plans, serving on an advisory board or helping to organize a major fundraising event may make more sense than serving up soup. For more, read my Washington Post piece from a couple of years ago.
  •  Place it on your resume.  Yes, you can and should add it right in alongside your paid work. Or you may highlight it in its own section. LinkedIn just introduced a new category on its profiles for causes and volunteer work.  Fill it in with your volunteer activities and give recruiters another reason to consider you.

You really can open doors as you open your heart to volunteer work. So if you haven’t taken a pro bono project yet, start one today.

 

More information:

Read my previous Workingkind post on volunteering your way to a new career.

Read my Glassdoor post on inching your way toward your dream job; and another on how kindness can be worthwhile to career advancement.

Check volunteer opportunities on VolunteerMatch.org, Idealist.org or a local or regional volunteer opportunities site. Individual charities also sometimes post needs on their websites.

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Today, I can’t work unless I’m helping Japan. Trade deadlines for caring.

Some days you just need to shove aside your to-do list and ignore your deadlines and go straight for the heart of the matter. Today is just such a day.

After watching an hour of televised news reports on the horrible tsunami and earthquake in Japan and reading some stories and tweets on this disaster, I need to turn off the horrific news and focus on how I could help. I can’t run off to northern Japan and cover the story or help the injured and homeless. Nor can I reach out to victims’ families with cards or emails, though I will be attempting to contact my family’s exchange student, Yoshitaka, soon to see if he and his family are all right.

Yet in this interconnected world, there is much I can do to offer help and support, now and in the weeks ahead. I just heard President Obama say he offered “our Japanese friends whatever assistance is needed.” And I know that assistance will be as varied as it is valuable.

Here’s three things I’m going to do today and tomorrow to reach out with compassion:

  1. Share the new Charity Navigator list of best causes to help with the Japanese tsunami and earthquake as widely as I can. This means emailing it to editors at five or six newspapers. This means sharing it on social media, right here and however else I can discover. (Ideas on this are welcome.)
  2. Go to a Japanese restaurant or Japanese supermarket this weekend, spend a good chunk of money there – and then express my solidarity and hope that their families are safe. Yes, I’ll need to finesse how I say this, to make sure it’s a message of comfort and kindness, said with respect and a little restraint.
  3. Place a reminder on my calendar so in two months time, I will return to consider how I will help. I may donate (again) to a cause helping with the rebuilding of Japan or find an article that I can write about those who are aiding in relief. By then, much of the media coverage will have subsided and the needs will be clearer.

As I sit here, worried and distracted from my deadlines, it seems like there may be different kindnesses I could undertake, but these are right in front of me and use my talents. These are what I can visualize now.

Your two or three actions may be far different – and I would love to hear what you’re doing, and what else we all could do to help. Because in times of natural disaster or horrific situations, we all need to increase our generosity and connectivity. The time we take for kindness may delay a few work projects, but that is a small price to pay to help Japan – and my readers with their generosity.

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Love your job or your co-worker – or maybe love the dogs, your best clients

Everyone, it seems, loves something or someone at their job.
You read that right: Love is all around us during our work days, whether we acknowledge it or not. So if you do not want to read one of those sweet, sexy, seasonal Valentine’s Day Posts, skip this one and come back later in the week. Otherwise, read on for more on office love, trysts and sought-after jobs.
Despite layoffs, bigger workloads and grumpy bosses, more than half of American workers say they love their jobs, according to a Randstad online survey of 1,008 adults who have full- or part-time gigs. Two-thirds of them report it’s the work itself that makes their jobs wonderful. Those who hate their jobs are more divided on reasons: the job, the pay and their employer were all cited equally.
If you’re not feeling the love just yet, maybe these facts, gleaned from a variety of surveys and sources, will warm you up:

  • Four in ten people say they’ve experienced an office romance, according to an American Management Association survey of members. Almost one-third of them ended up married to their coworker. Another four in ten say their fling finished fast.
  • Almost a quarter of men say they’ve had an office fling compared to only 15 percent of women, according to Vault.com’s annual survey. I guess those ladies must be going into overtime on office romances.
  • Nearly one in ten workers currently have identified a colleague they’d like to date, the same amount who  asked out someone in the last year, according to CareerBuilder.com’s annual office romance survey.
  • Only about half of the AMA members polled say they have a written dating policy, and most forbid dating someone at a higher or lower level than you. One-fourth of those in the Vault survey say they dated someone below them at their organization, and almost one-in-five have dated a boss.
  • One-third of the 2,000 people who answered Vault’s poll say they’ve experienced a “romantic encounter” in the office. Whether this means a kiss in the copier room or something more erotic, we don’t know.
  • More than one-third of those who have a ‘work-spouse’ discuss their at-home sex lives with that person, according to a Captivate Networks Office Pulse survey.  Captivate’s survey of 600 also indicates that one-tenth of workers ended up in a romantic or sexual relationship with their ‘work-spouses.’
  • Jobs we’d most love to have:  Simply Hired says the top five clicked on job titles are administrative assistant, customer service representative, receptionist, project manager and material handler. The most searched keywords include part-time, internship and sales..
  • * Some jobs have love written into their descriptions. In the government’s Occupational Outlook Handbook, only a handful – veterinarians and animal care workers, counselors and psychologists – have love in their listing. Most require a love of animals.

The real message here:  Money doesn’t bring us love.  Pay may be a crucial reason to work, but it doesn’t mean we’re happier in our jobs. That comes from work we adore, a great friend at work, a dog at our feet or a lover in the next cubicle.

More:  Show your passion, and make your career sizzle. Advice from career coach Chandlee Bryan in my blog post on Glassdoor.com .

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The art of hugging a coworker or boss, with or without an air kiss

I’m a believer in hugging at work. I hug selectively and smartly and sweetly (or so I hope).  I’ve hugged co-workers, bosses and people who work for me for years before I started a company called Mity Nice.

I like giving hugs – and receiving them too, in the office, on lunch hour and before and after work.
So I was dismayed to see the new survey showing 70 percent of advertising and marketing managers disapprove of hugging a co-worker. Even more frown on hugs for a client, according to the Creative Group survey.

Most of the 500 creatives in the Creative Group poll say encircling someone with your arms is rarely or never appropriate in business settings, though advertising types were more agreeable to hugging a coworker than marketing managers. You’ll find me with the minority: More than one-fourth said hugging is somewhat or very common if they know the person well or it’s been a while since seeing her.

Those seem like narrow confines for hugging. So how do you know when hugging is right in the workplace?

Start with your own style and approach. If you’re known for your warmth and kindness, hugging will come naturally. If you’re already talking with colleagues about their wildest dreams or experiences, children or spiritual believes, you’ve started building a workplace friendship, and a hug on a very difficult day seems well, “Mity Nice.”

Then consider the person you want to hug. Some people are just not cut out to be touched at work Steer clear of the straight-laced or coldly calculating types. That’s why I would never have embraced my stilted bosses at a certain former Midwestern paper.  (I  did give hugs – occasionally – to my editors at Newsday, and I definitely want to hug my Fortune editor whenever she approves another article.)
Don’t hug an interviewer, says workplace columnist Anita Bruzzese in her blog 45 Things which asks but doesn’t answer whether and who to hug at work.

Then consider the time and place and possibilities of being misconstrued or embarrassed. If you’re alone in the conference room after a meeting, you may be safer than a hug right by the elevator or entryway.

Sometimes I announce: “I’d like to give you a hug” and then take a half step toward the person and watch for her reaction. If she looks terrified or unwilling, I’ll stop and say something like “Instead, I’ll just send positive thoughts your way.” Then a pat on the hand, a warm smile or sometimes, or a lightly blown kiss – my lips never graze the person’s forehead, I swear.
Perfect your hugging style by setting a number of pats on the back you give, writes Heidi Bedore on the Happy Worker blog. Her post has other good advice on hugging at work and for the very professionally inclined so does the Creative Group.
Are there hazards to hugging at work? Of course. A handful of EEOC lawsuits allege bosses’ hugging – combined with inappropriate touching and more. Hugging a would-be client who is introverted or avoids human contact could cost you a new account. And hugging your boss may imply to some that you’re using your female charms to gain favorable assignments.
The optimist in me thinks all that can be  sidestepped with emotional intelligence, hard work and cultivating cordiality and professionalism.
So join the kind people in the minority who are huggers 9 to 5, and on the afternoon or night shifts too. If you hug someone who’s passed over for a promotion or when they’re mourning the loss of a family member, you’re showing your kindness and humanity.

And you’re using hugging as a tool to build a team, encourage employee engagement and offer moral support.

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